If you are a single adult of any age, it can seem like you never meet others that are also single, or at least those that are interesting and like-minded. You may understand that there are lots of singles in the city, but it seems that those facts and your reality never really seem to match.
There is a very good reason why a single person in Boston may not find people to date. This is not something that they are doing, but rather the reality of living in a large city and having a busy professional life.
Location Matters
While real estate agents will tell you that location is everything, it is also a critical point in meeting new people. The sheer size of the city prevents most people from traveling outside of their local area, and even if you do go you are typically with a group of friends.
Meeting new people when you are with a group can be a challenge. It can be awkward for someone to approach a group, and it can also be awkward to be approached. Additionally, many of the social events you attend with your friends don’t allow you to really get to know a person, which can make a follow-up date a challenge.
Unrealistic First Date Expectations
Everyone who is single has had the experience of meeting a blind date or a friend of a friend who has been set up to be the perfect person. Often singles have unrealistic expectations on a first date because of pressure from friends, family or coworkers.
This not only creates tension for both people on the date but also leads to stress, tension and disappointment if the date isn’t perfect. Having a more comfortable, natural type of date can assist in reducing these unrealistic first date expectations.
Lack of Common Interests and Experiences
Simply being a nice person isn’t enough to generate interest in taking a first date to a second and third date. When singles are set up by friends and family, it is typically because they are both “nice people”, rather than a deeper look at their interests, personality types and their needs in a partner.
Working with a matchmaking service, on the other hand, can address these issues. By carefully screening and selecting Boston men and women that are compatible on several different levels, it is more likely that a first date will turn into a long term relationship.